Step 3: Listen to and Take Action from Your "Hut"
Step 3 of 5 of in the cultivating a Create a Career and Life You Love is about listening to + taking action from your “hut.” Sound funny? Let’s dive in a bit more… because, I love this term, and honestly, it’s required for maintaining your strong foundation (Step 1) as well as your living your values (Step 2).
Your "hut," coined by writer, Alexandra Franzen, is the combination of messages sent from your heart + gut, which together, I believe to be your truth, north star or moral compass. The stuff that makes you uniquely YOU!
Depending on how you're wired, one may be stronger than the other. Everyone feels something different, but stomach pangs, butterflies, chest tightening, even an achey heart, etc… are common ways that your body tells you to “listen up!”
Depending on where you are in your life, you may be out of touch with the messages being sent to you from your heart or your gut. But it takes only a moment to tune in with them. Pay attention the next time someone calls you and you pick up the phone, when you really just want to sit in peace. Or when a friend asks you to go out and you really just need a night in to relax.
What happens in those moments?
You’re putting someone else’s feelings ahead of your own. Sometimes in life, this is required, but most of the time, you’re saying yes to someone else, and no to yourself. You end up neglecting yourself in those moments, and they collectively add up to exhaustion, anxiety, and honestly waking up feeling lost with no idea how you ended up in X job, relationship, etc…
So let’s prevent that from happening! How? Ask yourself how you feel? What is your body telling you? Tune in with it, even if it’s uncomfortable. Your body knows what’s right for you, so I encourage you to not only listen to it, but to take action from what it’s telling you.
Living this way can require taking some steps:
Saying no to what doesn’t align with your values
Setting boundaries/asking for what you need
Trusting yourself and your feelings
It can make you vulnerable to conflict with people who are closest to you - this is the one that stops us!
Know that you’re not alone in this. If you’re ready to end the people pleasing, exhaustion, and lack of fulfillment in your life, try it. I’m here for you if you need help, and keep in mind that the benefits vastly outweigh the cost - you will end up being seen, fully, as your authentic self, surrounded by people who love you, for you, not for the version of you that always says yes.