Feeling behind in life?
Do you ever find yourself saying...
I should be here…
I should be there…
I’ve worked so hard, why am I only at this level/salary in my career?
I’ve been in therapy for years, how in the world am I still facing the same problems? Or maybe even backtracking!?!?!
All of these thoughts… they feel pretty overwhelming to sit and think about, but they don't have to be. In reality, A LOT has changed in your life, including your own growth and accomplishments, but you're focusing on the wrong things.
There’s no way you will see any progress (or satisfaction) when you’re only looking at the fact that you haven’t reached your ultimate goal. And reaching the goal isn’t going to even feel satisfying when it happens; it will feel relieving, like you can breathe again.
If you’re sick of beating yourself up (frankly, not breathing enough), and you’d like to actually start enjoying the journey towards reaching your goal… Try this.
First, take a step back, zoom out, look at the progress you’ve made, the tiniest accomplishment. Feel it. The deep gratitude for it. Do it everyday. Rewire your brain to look at the positive instead of the negative.
Second, choose another goal, separate from the one you’re frustrated by, and start working on that. Make it something important to you too. Set aside time for it, everyday - even if it’s just 10 minutes.
It sounds counterintuitive, because it involves taking your foot off the gas peddle on one of your goals, but it works, because you can only control outcomes to a certain degree. And when we try to over control, we can actually create resistance, miss important details, frustrate others (sometimes your key stakeholders/gatekeepers) and ultimately make our goal even more difficult to obtain.
Following this process lead to my executive promotion at Accenture and is what I’m focused on now in growing my business to the next level.
So take your foot off the gas pedal a bit. Just for a week. Look at the positive and try something new. If you don’t feel better, you can go back to your old ways. But if you do feel better, keep it up, and trust the process. It will all be so much more enjoyable and rewarding.
What do you think about this concept? Ever tried it?