How "connected" Are We, Really? (3-Mins)

How "connected" Are We, Really? (3-Mins)

In the age of constantly being "connected," statistics show that loneliness levels have more than doubled since the 1980's. Loneliness affects us mentally, emotionally and physically; in other words, life expectancy declines as loneliness rates increase. These statistics confirm that humans NEED real, meaningful connection, not only to thrive, but, most importantly, to survive.

So why, if we're constantly connected, are we so lonely?

Me Too... but what now? (4-min Read)

Me Too... but what now? (4-min Read)

We need LIGHT NOW to encourage healing and change!  And for the first time in my life, despite the moments of hurt, the pain I've experienced (and processed), the pain I see others going through while we witness a devastating, but unsurprising, reality in the #MeToo movement***, I'm not afraid to be authentic about how frickin' awesome life can be. I feel called to express this joy as a way to bring light to a dark week, but also to highlight that authenticity fuels change where we need it most. 

#GenuineVibesOnly (4min Read + Audio)

Leading with positivity, optimism, love, and joy are a super important part of living a full, meaningful life. However, we are human, designed to experience a full range of emotions. It can even be harmful to our mental health and overall wellbeing to only express positive emotions.

I've spent a lot of time learning how to express my full range of genuine emotions. Smacking a smile on my face came very easy for me, but emotions like anger, sadness, frustration, disappointment, etc... were more difficult. I was the type to say "yes" to too much and bottle it all up until I was about to explode. I'm still a work in progress, but let's just say, a mindfulness practice is VERY worth the time (and the financial investment too)!

Choosing Love in a time of fear - 4mins read

Tuesday night... Idea Potluck in Chicago. 6 minutes. 8 speakers. I was nervous. I was sharing something new, something that made me feel vulnerable... it felt really big for me - imposter syndrome popped up: who are you to speak about this topic? What do you know about fear and love? But I took a giant deep breath, focused on all that I do know, how I feel called to share this, and went for it. It was fantastic - the crowd's applause made me feel so alive and supported. I hope you enjoy it:

Not All Who Wander Are Lost (3 Min Read + Audio)

Not All Who Wander Are Lost (3 Min Read + Audio)

A good quote, questionable who said it first (JRR Tolkien seems to be the winner on Google), but, nonetheless, fitting for my post this week.

Feeling "lost" is uncomfortable. The thought of sharing this out loud with another person is even worse to think about, especially when it appears that everyone has this thing called life all figured out. So we sit in our discomfort and assume that we're the only ones who feel it.

What's ironic is, feeling lost, overwhelmed, uncertain, chaotic, disoriented, purposeless, whatever you want to call it, is a shared human experience. We ALL feel it at given times in our lives. Life is unpredictable and throws us curveballs into situations we can't possibly know how to navigate on our own.

Why invest in a coach when you can read a self-help book? (3 min Read)

Why invest in a coach when you can read a self-help book? (3 min Read)

A frustrated career change client of mine recently asked during our clarity session, "How is investing in a coach or attending a retreat different than reading a self-help book? I've tried so many different things, nothing sticks." I said, good question... because a good coach meets you where you are on your journey and customizes a program to your specific needs. A book can't do this; you are responsible for the customizing. I thought more about how I'd elaborate if my client wasn't satisfied with my first answer, because, it's a good question. So here goes...

Always want what you can't have? Follow these 3 Steps:

Always want what you can't have? Follow these 3 Steps:

I got inspired by a college friend's Facebook post this week: "Why do we always want the things we can't have?" I thought about it, and reminded myself that I always used to feel this way... I wanted a Bottega bag, a stronger connection with my partner, straight A's, a promotion, luxurious tropical vacations, etc... it felt like these things were so far out of my reach and I had accepted that they would never happen. 

But the truth is, I don't feel that way anymore. Sure, I have wants and dreams for myself (and one day I will buy myself that Bottega bag because they are just so damn beautiful)! But I don't think about it as "wanting what I can't have;" instead, the dialog in my mind has changed to:

is your hustle distracting you from being happy?

is your hustle distracting you from being happy?

As humans, we look for guidance when times get tough. We turn to others for inspiration, mentorship, and coaching. Many of the people we look up to make happiness and success look effortless, like it's just part of their nature. We can end up thinking some people are born "happy," "set up for success," or "talented," etc... and quick to assume we're just not those people. So we settle. 

I used to believe that I was not one of "the lucky ones." Truth is, that was just an excuse for not doing the work to become "one of those people." Sure, I had hobbies, but I wasn't exceptionally good at any of them. I was what I like to call, "a Jacqueline of all trades, master of none." I spread my time across so many different activities, people, and responsibilities. And while I cared about it all, and I had values and priorities, I was not acting in alignment with them. I was always busy and distracted.

Underneath the distraction, I knew I so badly wanted to be a master at something! But what!?! 

Fake It 'Til You Make It?

Fake It 'Til You Make It?

You change careers. You do a total 180 to leave a career that was once exciting, but started feeling like something was missing. You did some internal digging and decided to take a risk and pursue a career in a new industry and function that ignites your passion and plays to your strengths!

You walk into your first meeting - you're excited, but it's scary to walk into a room knowing you are the rookie. You want to look competent and intelligent. You're used to being an expert at what you do - you would give advice, not be the one asking for it. It's tempting in this situation to say, "I'm going to pretend like I understand exactly what the group is talking about, otherwise people view me as incompetent," in other words, "fake it 'til I make it."

DON'T DO IT!