You will not be happy "when..." Get happy now!

I hear many people, including myself, especially when we’re trying something new or difficult, set our sites on being “happy” in the future. We think that once we accomplish a goal (whether that be, losing weight, getting a promotion, finding the love of our life or something else), we will find our happiness. This “happiness” can also be disguised as looking for confidence, peace of mind/relaxation, fun/adventure, etc… We say, I’ll be happy, once I’ve lost the weight. I’ll start dating, once I’ve lost the weight, etc…

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How to recover from a bad date (or anything difficult in life)...

Happy "Monday" Funday and Labor Day!

Today I'm thinking about resilience... why? Because I went on a pretty bad date on Saturday night.

I believe we have to be vulnerable and as real as possible on dates, and really in all of our interactions, in order to see if we really connect with a person.

While that vulnerability opens you up to meaningful connection, it also leaves you open to pain...

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5 ways to make new friends, as an adult...

If you were a Girl Scout, you probably know that song, “Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other is gold….” As much as I love this theory, there are a lot of nuances behind that song we sang as little girls:), and in adulthood, making new friends can be difficult, and “keeping the old” may not always be the right answer either. What I do know, is that having good friends is super important for your well-being and general fulfillment in life!

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More flow... less force...

You know that feeling when things just come easy? Like everything is happening just the way you want it!? It’s feels like bliss, or something I call “flow.” Maybe that term represents things that come naturally to you, or are easy, simple, and just feel good when you’re done with them. It may be something you only feel on vacation, or perhaps not at all (don’t fret).

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It's not about willpower

Do you set goals for yourself and not achieve them? I’ve been there, a bunch. We start out really strong and then we taper off, or one day, we just stop completely. Think about dating as an example. You have a renewed outlook on dating, your heart has been broken before, but you’re ready to go back out there. You’re on a mission to go on at least 1 date/week.

So you go online, talk to a few people who seem cool, you go on dates, have one or two good ones, and then, crickets - you don’t hear back from the good ones and tell the others, thank you, but not a fit. You feel defeated - all the effort, no gain.

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Let's "Cliff Jump" Together!

Back in 2013, I took a life changing vacation.

I had just had my heart broken by the first man I thought I could marry. We were supposed to go to South Africa together for Christmas to visit some of his extended family; cancelled. Not only did I feel a gaping hole in my heart, but the 3 weeks I had taken off from my finance job at the time felt like another one. I couldn't sit around for all of it. So I booked a solo trip to Curacao, a tiny island in the Netherland-Antilles, right near Aruba.

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Are you sabotaging your happiness?

If you asked me this question a few years ago, I’d say no way, but then I became aware of the “shoe drop” mentality that I most definitely possessed. It’s that feeling you get when a lot of good things have happened, but you’re waiting for a bomb/shoe/X traumatic life event to happen to take away all that joy.

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Real Pride Comes from Within

I’ve been feeling a deep sense of gratitude for all that I’ve been given; my existence as an able-bodied, white woman alone is a privilege, not to mention, my college education, world travels, corporate career, entrepreneurial experience, and the list goes on... But I am also proud of myself, for what I’ve built, but more importantly, for who I’ve become. It wasn’t easy. It takes courage to really get to know and love yourself and live in alignment with your values.

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Feeling behind in life?

I should be here…

I should be there…

I’ve worked so hard, why am I only at this level at work?

I’ve been in therapy for years, how in the world am I still facing the same problems?

All of these questions… they’re tough. They feel pretty sh*tty to sit and think about. But they’re signals of focusing on the wrong things. In other words, you’re focused on things you AREN’T doing vs. the things you ARE doing.

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Find your voice + Use It

I spent Friday afternoon with a super inspiring, diverse group of women at BMW leading a discussion on the topic, "Finding Your Voice + Using It." A woman (aka my friend Lauren:)) started the women's group to build a supportive space to help women grow in their careers.

The women really opened up about their challenges, but also their INCREDIBLE victories! It was super refreshing to hear some of the stories women shared about not only standing up for their own truths, but how they support other women (and men too, but they all agreed women appeared to need it more) in the room when they've needed help getting their points across. #MAJORPROGRESS 

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Why it's so important to turn off your type-A personality

Many of you know, I spent 8 years in corporate finance where I thrived off of the type A side of me. My body didn’t like it so much, and it would regularly tell me something was wrong (via panic attacks, anxiety, insomnia, and chronic neck and shoulder tension). But naturally, as a severely type A person would, instead of getting curious about the source of the discomfort, I said I’d figure it out later! Neither stopping nor slowing down were in the cards for me and my goals.

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