is your hustle distracting you from being happy?

is your hustle distracting you from being happy?

As humans, we look for guidance when times get tough. We turn to others for inspiration, mentorship, and coaching. Many of the people we look up to make happiness and success look effortless, like it's just part of their nature. We can end up thinking some people are born "happy," "set up for success," or "talented," etc... and quick to assume we're just not those people. So we settle. 

I used to believe that I was not one of "the lucky ones." Truth is, that was just an excuse for not doing the work to become "one of those people." Sure, I had hobbies, but I wasn't exceptionally good at any of them. I was what I like to call, "a Jacqueline of all trades, master of none." I spread my time across so many different activities, people, and responsibilities. And while I cared about it all, and I had values and priorities, I was not acting in alignment with them. I was always busy and distracted.

Underneath the distraction, I knew I so badly wanted to be a master at something! But what!?! 

Fake It 'Til You Make It?

Fake It 'Til You Make It?

You change careers. You do a total 180 to leave a career that was once exciting, but started feeling like something was missing. You did some internal digging and decided to take a risk and pursue a career in a new industry and function that ignites your passion and plays to your strengths!

You walk into your first meeting - you're excited, but it's scary to walk into a room knowing you are the rookie. You want to look competent and intelligent. You're used to being an expert at what you do - you would give advice, not be the one asking for it. It's tempting in this situation to say, "I'm going to pretend like I understand exactly what the group is talking about, otherwise people view me as incompetent," in other words, "fake it 'til I make it."

DON'T DO IT!

I Got L-O-V-E On My Mind

I Got L-O-V-E On My Mind

On my podcast this week, I talked about going on my first date, in a long time. It actually felt good to get back out there. I've worked really hard to overcome a lot of fear and insecurity around romantic relationships and love over the past few years. More recently, I've been focused on releasing limited beliefs when it comes to dating, an exercise that can help me stay motivated on a path that can, frankly, be an emotional rollercoaster. 

I want to share this process with you because you can apply it to dating, job searching, entrepreneurship, making new friends, or whatever journey you're currently focused on.

"No," I mean "yes!" AHH!

"No," I mean "yes!" AHH!

No. Two letters. Easy to pronounce, but loaded on so many levels.

Some things are easy to say no to: a workout, cleaning the house, doing the grocery shopping, etc... they're low risk and can be done later. The guilt of saying no in these situations is relatively easy to get over, partially because they most likely don't involve anyone else's feelings/emotions other than your own. In these situations you feel like you should say yes, but you end up saying no. There are so many other things you would rather do, so you procrastinate. You then feel guilty and ask yourself why Netflix won your entire Saturday afternoon, as you eat a box of crackers and PB for dinner (you have no fresh produce and no clean dishes). It's a vicious cycle that bleeds into different areas of your life... 

[PODCAST Episode: 334] Wednesday Thoughts

No script, no planning, just raw thoughts to inspire real human connection

I'm reflecting on my week so far in order to be transparent with you about the good, the bad and the "huh" - aka, the "I'm confused, wtf is happening" moments. 

We're all human at the end of the day and have much more in common than we think. 

xoxox ~Liz

Episode 334 Recap:

  • Season 5: House of Cards + My first pilates class
  • Creating time for priorities (including online dating)
  • Getting good sleep when you're excited (naps needed)
  • Balancing excitement and pressure with a reasonable timeline

Feeling Overwhelmed?

Feeling Overwhelmed?

This past weekend, I attended a 1:1 coaching intensive with my business and mindset coach. It was a deeply meaningful, reflective and transformative 3.5 days. I came home with SO many ideas, step by step plans and utter excitement for the future. But I also felt REALLY mentally exhausted (we worked hard).

It’s like, you just SO want to keep going, but your mind and body are like, calm the F down. You need to relax. It’s an awesome feeling, but also challenging. I’ve been doing my best to pace myself, but let’s face it, I’m human...

Is Motivation Really the Thing You're lacking?

Is Motivation Really the Thing You're lacking?

I hear this a lot in my work... "why am I not motivated enough to just accomplish what I want each day? To make change in my life that I deeply want? Why do others have motivation and I just don't." While some may lack motivation, I believe the vast majority of us have it, we just have to learn how identify it, observe how we are using it today and then re-channel it into our deepest priorities. We are all human, and motivation is a finite resource, so how do we do this?

Why are we so damn scared of not being liked?

Why are we so damn scared of not being liked?

I've recently watched the controversial Netflix series, 13 Reason's Why. Despite what critics say, I think the show brought to life a new, truly raw view of what it feels like for kids to just want to be "normal" and liked by their peers in high school. 

The show made me think a lot about my own high school experience, how painful and lonely certain times were and how much of what other people thought of me mattered. I think of this today as people pleasing. This mentality seems typical in high school, especially for girls, but what about when the need to please extends into college and your adult life? When does this need to please heal? Because let's face it, it's exhausting. 

Is your career soul sucking? Top 5 ways to know...

Is your career soul sucking? Top 5 ways to know...

Sometimes we get comfortably uncomfortable. We can forget what it feels like to be fulfilled and satisfied with our work and settle for ok.

Sometimes we get a feeling that something isn't right, but we can't pinpoint what it is.

It could be your soul talking to you... I know it sounds all "woo woo," but we've all got a soul - it's that beautiful thing that makes you unique. It's your sense of humor, the kid in you, your life stories and experiences, your faith, optimism, curiosity and vitality. Don't let your career zap it!

Here are my top 5 ways to know whether your career is sucking up the best of your soul and what to do to change it!