As humans, we look for guidance when times get tough. We turn to others for inspiration, mentorship, and coaching. Many of the people we look up to make happiness and success look effortless, like it's just part of their nature. We can end up thinking some people are born "happy," "set up for success," or "talented," etc... and quick to assume we're just not those people. So we settle.
I used to believe that I was not one of "the lucky ones." Truth is, that was just an excuse for not doing the work to become "one of those people." Sure, I had hobbies, but I wasn't exceptionally good at any of them. I was what I like to call, "a Jacqueline of all trades, master of none." I spread my time across so many different activities, people, and responsibilities. And while I cared about it all, and I had values and priorities, I was not acting in alignment with them. I was always busy and distracted.